My Support

Support can have many classifications to say, but the basic concept is that it is a resource of dependability, nurture, compassion, guidance, and direction.  This term has many words that can describe its mean.  Webster defines the term as “1 hold up  2 help  3 provide for  4 help prove” (Webster’s New World Dictionary, 2000, p. 325).  Regardless if one’s support is a parent, grandparent, sibling, teacher, peer, or more, the factor and mission is the same to help encourage and guide the individual into the right path or right choice.  We all have supporting factors daily that help us get through our life.  I have always been a self-motivator and rely on observation of others experiences to filter my choices.  For me it is of course based on my philosophy and experience thus far in life.  One of the hugest supports in my life would be the fact of my own personal drive.  My mother died at a young age in my life, the thought of what she would want me to do always motivated me to make better decisions in life.  As well as my grandmother, whom became my support after my mother’s death.  Once she past at few years ago, those same thoughts rattle my mind before making a decision.  When I focus on the very moment, as of today from waking up to typing this blog, my biggest support would be my kids and my fiancé.  My kids have always been a motivator from the day I found out I was baring.  I yearn for them to have the healthiest and happiest life in every aspect.  I understand the effects of a dysfunctional childhood, with emotional abuse and tragic events.  Therefore my support truly lies in my kids.  They make me want to do better, be better in every way to lead the in the right path.  As one whom encountered a very hard previous marriage, separation, and divorce.  I was blessed to find someone whom truly supports me in many ways.  He proves financially for me and my kids.  He helps contribute to the household needs.  Also contributing to the cleaning/maintenance/up-keep to my home.  Homework, activities, and discipline that may be needed for the kids is now also a supporter from him.  If I did not have my fiancé, I would still be able to function and survive, but it would be much harder with 3 kids on my own.  As a previous single mother, I have had that road and indeed it is challenging in many ways.  It is difficult to find a sitter and or have the extra money to hire a good sitter.  My kids on the other hand, if I did not have them I would truly feel lost to say.  Of course as a human I can and would survive, but they truly are my passion and drive. 

If we look at the general aspect of support we can say that we have support from local law enforcement, local firefighters, doctors, and more.  Ensuring our safety and healthy to continue with everyday living.  Our government ensure the people their rights to freedom and more.  As a student, I have the support from my professor, peers, and facility.  The reality is we have an abundance of support that we are smothered with it we only take the time to step back look and accept the support.  Without these supports where would we be in society or even in this world. 

A challenge that I have actually encountered was a very bad car accident that left me unable to walk for 2 years.  I had to bed confined and unable to take care of myself or even my oldest child.  This was a very hard time in my life from many different angels, physically, emotionally, mentally, and even socially.  My father, step-mother, sister, and aunts truly stepped up and support me and my son.  I was overwhelmed with love and support, it kept my spirits up in many ways. 

Reference
Webster's New World Dictionary. (2000). Webster's New Pocket Dictionary. Cleveland, Ohio: Wiley       Publishing Inc.